Every priest has an unparalleled window into the lives of
real people with all of their sufferings, doubts, and questions.
But some priests also have a special gift for opening
that window to let in some light and a breath
of fresh air. Father Jonathan is one of those priests,
and his first book “The Promise: God’s Purpose and Plan
for When Life Hurts” is bound to be a source
of light and fresh air for many souls.
In his “day
job” as a priest and spiritual advisor, and in his
“night job” as a Fox News analyst, Father Jonathan’s mission
has put him in touch with a wide range of
people. Many of them, as he says in his Introduction,
are struggling under a burden of suffering – often without
understanding it and without knowing how to handle it. This
is the problem that the author addresses: not just the
abstract philosophical question of where suffering comes from, but the
eminently practical and pastoral question of how to respond to
our suffering here and now. His intended readers are not
just people who have learned to carry their cross with
Christ, but those other multitudes of people who are carrying
the even heavier cross of anger, doubts, questions, and accusations
against God.
“My goal,” he writes, “is to provide something to
know and something to live—to address both your mind and
heart,” to offer “a guidebook of spiritual principles and practical
ideas—examples and techniques, rooted in the teachings and person of
Jesus of Nazareth—that aim to better your life.”
He undertakes this
project in three main parts. In Part I, “God on
Trial,” he addresses the real questions and doubts about God
that may be blocking a person from receiving the healing
that God can give. He addresses people who have sent
him letters like this one from “Susie,” who writes: “I
used to believe. I used to pray. No more. Everything
I had, everything I loved—I’ve lost it all. Who needs
a God who only cares for a time, who runs
and hides when things get rough? Is he hiding a
smirk, a mean smile that mocks the power I thought
he had?” These are the types of questions that Father
Jonathan faces head on, not with pat answers, but with
a pastoral touch.
In Part II, “Emotional and Spiritual Healing,” he
helps the reader understand how our suffering is a complex
reality with emotional, physical, and spiritual components, and begins to
show the way toward integral healing. This section touches on
the mysterious boundary where psychology and the spiritual life meet.
For example, he sheds some light on how psychological and
emotional damage can be linked to invisible spiritual realities at
work, such as the subtle lies that the devil can
introduce into a person’s thought processes or self-concept.
In Part
III, “Principles for Freedom-Living,” he lays out five practical principles
that can turn personal suffering into a means of growth
in holiness and in one’s own humanity. These principles are
not just an automatic “recipe for success”: they are a
program of work that invite us to take a hand
in our own healing, and turn our suffering into an
opportunity for tremendous spiritual growth.
This is not a typical self-help
book promising a few easy steps to eradicate suffering. Father
Jonathan’s approach to suffering is not so facile as that,
nor does he whitewash the mystery of suffering or lightly
pass over the way it can so deeply mark and
damage people. This is a book written for real people
with real problems, and the voices of these real sufferers
can be heard in almost every chapter in excerpts from
actual letters which Father Jonathan includes as notes “from my
in-box.”
One such note reads: “Father Jonathan, my husband recently
died in a bicycle accident from a head injury. It
just happened in September, and of course, I am devastated
and, yes, looking for an answer. We were each other’s
soul mate, so why would a good God want to
separate a love like ours? I just don’t get it…
I just cannot seem to grasp anything about life right
now. How can I ever find joy on this earth
again without my love by my side?”
Father Jonathan’s answers will
help readers to grasp the big picture of why God
allows us to suffer, how we personally can grow and
be healed through it, and how we can rise above
it by living a life in line with God’s plan
for us.
But aside from its enlightening insights and practical
techniques, this book will also give readers—especially those who are
suffering—a sense that they are accompanied and understood, that their
experience is not dismissed lightly or brushed aside with clichés.
Father Jonathan’s “voice” throughout the book is that of a
friend and older brother who knows how to meet people
where they are at, who hears their real questions, and
who can respond with deep and satisfying answers.
This is the
first book of a young priest who is already fulfilling
a big mission as an effective communicator of the Gospel
to the American people. Its pages, full of relevance to
any person who has ever suffered even the tiniest twinge,
are full of the personal gifts that make Father Jonathan
“connect” so well with audiences of all kinds.
What gifts?
There is the personal touch of empathy, his uncanny ability
to grasp what other people are experiencing and describe it
from the inside so that the reader says, “Yes, that’s
it exactly. You hit the nail on the head!” There
is the sense that this priest listens to people, that
he listens long and listens well, and that he isn’t
about to offer any pat answers or textbook solutions. His
approach is deeply human, rooted in pastoral experience, and full
of respect for that boundary where the best answer is
to say with all honesty and humility: “We don’t know.”
There is the communication style, which is full of warmth,
conviction, and sensitivity, and that practical, down-to-earth American realism right
alongside an authentic religious fervor and idealism. And most of
all, there is that winning combination of a spiritual wisdom
and native intelligence: the answers that he gives are not
undigested pious platitudes, nor are they abstract theorems cooked up
in a mental test tube. His answers come from active
and intelligent reflection on real people with their real experiences,
and on the universal principles that can guide and enlighten
particular situations; both sides of the equation enrich and enlighten
each other. It also seems that he allows himself to
learn from the people he serves, and that he approaches
others as a friend. This quality opens hearts and also
enables him to provide a deeper service to a wide
range of people, including those who may not be on
speaking terms with God at the moment.
Father Jonathan has a
mission as a communicator to the American people, a capacity
to make “mass communication” somehow personal. This book, written in
the engaging style of a personal conversation, will help multitudes
of people find peace, healing, and a way to carry
with greater hope and grace whatever suffering they must endure.
All of which makes “The Promise” a very promising beginning
indeed.
For a schedule of Father Jonathan’s upcoming book tour in
the United States, visit his web page at www.fatherjonathan.com.