|Staying together through the rough times is the biggest service you can do for your kids and for yourselves, said Fr. Daniel.|
Oxford, Michigan –
“Love is like driving a car”… “You’re on a winning
team”… “Sometimes you need to put gasoline on the fire.”
Using these analogies and
more, including the great analogy of Christ’s love for his
Church in Ephesians 5, Fr. Daniel Weber LC helped the
17 married couples who attended his March 3, 2012 mini-retreat
to get a better understanding of the ongoing beauty and
challenges presented in married life.
The event, including a Marriage Renewal
service, took place at the Queen of the Family Retreat
Center in Oxford, Michigan.
Christ on Your Team
Fr. Daniel began his presentation with one of his favorite
topics - sports. He said marriage is “like playing football. You can always improve.”
“I am like a cheerleader on the sidelines.
I’m saying ‘Rah, Rah! You can do it! You are
on a winning team!’”
He suggested the couples remember the good times in their
marriages. Asking his listeners to remember the original
reasons they married each other, he said, “How many years
has it been since you said ‘I do’? Since then,
how many ‘games’ have you seen? How many
‘opponents’ have you faced? I want to thank you for
staying together through the rough times. It is
the biggest service you can do for your kids and
be ups and downs,” he said. “You may have already
seen it, been through a lot.”
Then he reminded the couples who is the
most important member of their family “team.”
“Sometimes we think we can do it
ourselves,” he said. “But you are not alone in this. You have Christ. He is very
involved in your life, it’s true. He is
not a distant God.
Christ, trust in Him, the
creator of Heaven and Earth. Bring Christ into the picture.”
|Married couples attended the mini-retreat with Fr. Daniel Weber LC in Oxford, Michigan|
Daniel said it is easy to forget “how good God
“He put down
his life for you,” he said. “What more proof do
the couples in attendance of the Scripture passages from Ephesians
5 comparing marriage to the love of Christ for his
have used another analogy from another parable…the vines in the
vineyard or planting seeds,” he said, but the fact that
St. Paul selected the marriage analogy illustrates the importance of
the marriage sacrament.
the passage Eph. 5: 25, he told the men, “Husbands,
love your wives.” He challenged them love their wives “through
“I know there
is a lot expected from you, and I know it
is hard. You have a lot of things to do. But you have to do it,” he said.
“Christ gave his life
for the Church. Husbands are to lay down their lives
for their wives. How can a husband lay down his
life? He must be a leader. Husbands are
called to be leaders. Leaders live by priority,
and your wife is your priority.”
He told the husbands to “renew” their love
for their wives every day. “Make it part
of your routine. If your faith is important to you,
you should love your wife even more.”
He acknowledged that, though
communication is very important in a marriage, women often have
an easier time with this than men. He suggested that
husbands “don’t go on standby” when their wives speak to
them. “This is where guys put down their
lives,” he said.
Subject to Your Husbands
To the wives, he quoted Ephesians 5, verse 22.
“Be subject to your husband
as you are to the Lord.”
He reminded the wives that, “Your husband just
pledged his life for you. You have a partner for
life, someone to lean on.”
Fr. Daniel told a story about a woman he
knows who has a simple way of renewing her love
for her husband.
“She says she has a list of his
best characteristics, and every time he does something she dislikes,
she reminds herself that ‘He is my fortune,’” he said.
Love is like Driving
then moved from Sacred Scripture to an auto maintenance analogy,
saying that, “Love is sometimes like driving a car. We need to keep up the maintenance – add
fluids, replace the brakes, change the oil and put on
in our hands,” he said. “We can do these things. This is not rocket science.”
Fr. Daniel told his listeners that he
hoped he had helped them to “put some gasoline on
the fire” of their marriages.
“I can tell you where it (the gasoline) is,
but you have to put it on,” he said.
He admitted to his audience
that loving each other as Christ loves the Church, through
total “self-giving” is difficult. To make things a
bit easier from the start, he suggested his listeners consider
giving about “10 to 15 percent more. Start